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Frazier: Vote for Same-Sex Marriage is ‘Vote Against Children’

The Board of Commissioners has proclaimed Feb. 7-14 “Marriage Week,” recognizing heterosexual unions.

 

Carroll County Commissioner Robin Frazier, R-District 1, this week announced the Board’s proclamation of Feb. 7-14 as “marriage week,” recognizing marriage as an institution that “binds men and women together in a network of mutual aid and mutual obligation,” according to the document signed by the five commissioners.

This is the second year that the board has adopted such a proclamation. The document is part of an international marriage week movement led by National Marriage Week USA and other organizations in 16 countries.

The purpose of the movement is to recognize and promote marriage, understanding, according to the organization’s website, that “social science is clear that children are best served when they grow up with both a mother and father.”

Frazier, pointing out the yellow button she was wearing that read “Proud to be a coward. Defend marriage,” reported back during Tuesday’s open meeting from a rally she attended against same-sex marriage in Annapolis Monday.

The rally was in response to Senate Bill 241 and Gov. Martin O’Malley’s support of marriage equality.

“Maryland is the seventh state that was admitted to the union by ratifying the Constitution of the United States. We can also be the seventh to pass a civil marriage equality law,” said O’Malley in a Facebook post. “I look forward to working together over the next few months to get this bill passed.”

The portion of the open meeting discussing Carroll County’s Marriage Proclamation was not on the revised agenda for the week and was discussed in an empty boardroom Tuesday.

During her speech, Frazier mentioned the rally in Annapolis and how Carroll County residents need to get involved by writing to their representatives. 

“Lawyers Mall was full. There were people of all ages, all backgrounds, all religions and basically they were there to say we support God’s law and Maryland’s law of marriage being one man and one woman,” said Frazier.

She said that a vote for marriage equality is “a vote against children because the studies show that the healthier, safer, most successful road for children is to be raised by one man and one woman.”

In a statement to Patch, Haven Shoemaker, R-District 2, agreed with Frazier saying, “Traditional marriage between a man and a woman has been the cornerstone of Western civilization for a few thousand years now, and should not be messed with. Plain and simple.”

Following Tuesday’s meeting, the Carroll County Commissioners had their website updated to include a link to the Maryland Marriage Alliance website, which caused one local group to protest.  

“One of our members of PFLAG (Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays) of Carroll County complained to the webmaster and only then did they move the link to the ‘Marriage Proclamation’ section,” said Matt Gibbons, a member of the Westminster chapter of PFLAG. 

Gibbons, 55, of Union Bridge, is openly gay and said a bill for marriage equality in Maryland is long overdue.

“I met my spouse, Hank, in 1987 at the gay Catholic organization, Dignity. We have been together for 24 years. We espoused ourselves to each other without consent of either society or the law,” said Gibbons.

“We do not see why young people should have to go through what we went through nor live as second class citizens without the full protection of the law.”

June Horner of Eldersburg became involved in PFLAG in 1984 when she discovered her son was gay.

She admits at first she did not understand or support gay marriage but now she is fighting for it.

“I am saddened to see that our commissioners understand SB 241 -- the Marriage Protection Act -- to be an attack on the institution of marriage and that marriage as they understand it must be defended from change,” said Horner. “They are mistaken. However, I doubt anything I say here will change their minds or alleviate their fear.”

Horner attended the Judicial Proceedings Committee Hearing on Senate Bill 241 on Jan. 31. 

“I witnessed the testimony of some church leaders claiming, as do our own Carroll County Commissioners, that marriage must be between one man and one woman, that the definition of marriage has always been the same, and that it cannot change. This is simply not so.” 

Related Topics: Carroll County, Eldersburg, Senate Bill 241, marriage equality, and maryland

hmj

3:12 pm on Friday, February 3, 2012

The Gov is supporting more and more wacky ideas. What is next on the agenda: same family marriage? Jeffy Sandusky inter-generational unions? Seems like a race to the bottom.

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newsjunkie

7:02 pm on Friday, February 3, 2012

Jerry Sandusky has been married to the same woman for most of his adult life. He had sex with CHILDREN which makes him a pedophile NOT a homosexual. I wonder why Commissioner Rothschild wasn't quoted. He believes in the sanctity of marriage so much he's been married three times.

McDaniel Student

3:34 pm on Friday, February 3, 2012

If the commisioners are doing this, they might as well go all the way and ban interacial marriages while they're at it. The false scientific premis that children grow up healthier when theyr'e parents are heterosexual is just a copout for homophobia. That's all it ever is.

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David J Iacono

4:05 pm on Friday, February 3, 2012

Wow! The BOC has declared the week of February 7 as Marriage Week. I guess where off to a good start for 2012 with this do nothing BOC. As small businesses close up in Carroll and our infrastructure continues to crumble, the Carroll County BOC is focused on social issues like same sex marriage. What about job creation? what about economic development. So far, this BOC is a big goose egg. I wouldn't feel so bad about Frazier's exorbitant travel vouchers if she actually accomplished something other than pursuing her right-wing social agenda and her servitude to the private developers in the county. It seems conservatives like our BOC support no regulation on business interest but have no problem imposing all kinds of restrictions in the bedroom. Also, you may want to take a look at heterosexual marriages and the high divorce rate, alcoholism and dysfunctional children coming out of these marriages.

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John

6:33 pm on Friday, February 3, 2012

The government only creates government jobs. Your taxes pay for those jobs. Do you really want to pay more in taxes to increase the government bureaucracy? Instead, the government should decrease spending. They could then decrease taxes, leaving people with more money to buy more consumer goods. More demand for consumer goods means more people employed to produce those goods, i.e. real jobs = higher employment.

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WatchingInMtAiry

3:03 pm on Saturday, February 4, 2012

John - that's not true. Government spending produces more than government bureaucracy. Infrastructure spending goes to local construction companies, private concrete plants, maintenance for vehicles, etc. Education spending goes to teachers, janitors, cafeteria personnel, bus drivers, local tech companies, etc. But economic development in Carroll County should be more than cutting taxes for land owners. Economic development should encompass revitalizing Carrolltowne Mall area, increasing Warfield's Complex's usage, etc.

Instead, this windmill tilting board does nothing.

Lisa Bass

4:10 pm on Friday, February 3, 2012

I respect the Commissioners right to their personal opinions regarding same-sex marriage. But I don't understand why this is a county issue? Shouldn't the Board be focusing on matters specific to Carroll County? I don't think the Board of Commissioners open meeting should be a forum for the commissioners to promote their personal agendas.

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Wearedoomedcc

2:12 am on Monday, February 6, 2012

I agree with you but this board especially Mr. Rothschild and the rest of his subordinates don't care about ALL the people only those that are in 100% agreement with them and abuse their office to
promote their personal views and agendas.

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Wearedoomedcc

2:17 am on Monday, February 6, 2012

This is not inappropriate. I did not mean to tag this.

Jesse Robert Becker

4:23 pm on Friday, February 3, 2012

Okay, so what about teenagers like myself who want to get marriage to the man (or woman) that they love? How does that not harm children?

Every time you vote on issues that only affect minorities, you become the oppressor. Marriage was not invented by religion, nor is it governed by it. If the base of your decisions and proclamations in civil government is solely religious text, you are inherently rejecting your duties as a public representative, because you represent people of all creeds. What a disgusting article.

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WatchingInMtAiry

3:06 pm on Saturday, February 4, 2012

Jesse - this law does not change the age of consent in Maryland (at least not that I've heard). Your teenager is going to have to wait until their sixteenth birthday to elope with Mr/Mrs Wrong. If your child turns out to be gay/lesbian, I hope you either support them or disown them so they can move on with their life.

County Citizen

4:34 pm on Friday, February 3, 2012

I also support any and everyone's right to their personal beliefs, however I believe it is unethical to use your government title while doing so. This BOC just associated all of the residents of Carroll County in their personal beliefs and it's apparent that that is not representative of all the people they are their to serve. Secondly, she says she's defending marriage - but it appears more that she's trying to prevent it, and in a discriminatory fashion. But you heard her - she wants us to write our representatives, so I suggest we all do just that and explain how we want equality for all adults to marry, regardless of gender, race, or sexual preference and support marriage equality. And let our government stay out of our bedrooms and get back in thier boardrooms to focus on fixing our economy. We should all be outraged that our tax dollars are going to support her personal and religious agendas rather than our county and community concerns and problems.

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Faith Nissel

5:20 pm on Friday, February 3, 2012

What I want to know is...how does same sex marriage affect the children of heterosexual marriages in any way? Fraziers statement makes no sense. Gay/Lesbian couples already raise children together- this Bill has no affect on that- so what is Frazier so afraid of? All of the Commissioners sound like homophobes to me.

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Faith Nissel

5:22 pm on Friday, February 3, 2012

Wouldn't the Commissioners want the children of gay/lesbian couples to feel secure knowing their parents are married and NOT viewed as "lesser people" by their own Gov't.???

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Michael

5:43 pm on Friday, February 3, 2012

I think it's pretty obvious that the commissioners don't believe that homosexual couples should have a right to raise children. And neither do most "normal" people who understand the strengths and values of morality in a family unit. People who believe otherwise are morally corrupt.

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newsjunkie

10:21 pm on Saturday, February 4, 2012

Michael, I am "normal". I understand the stregths and value of having adults who love, care for and nurture a child. It's no one's business what two consenting adults do in the privacy of their bedroom.

nr

5:42 pm on Friday, February 3, 2012

This is disgusting...we have plenty of homosexual people in carroll county...I'm ashamed to say I'm from here...this is just rediculous...so many kids who ARE homosexual are going to feel so ashamed of themselves and depressed now about this...and really angry...let's just pray that none of them become suicidal...if my friend kills himself because of this...I will not be happy...thanks carroll county...

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Megan

6:12 pm on Friday, February 3, 2012

This appalling. I consider myself to be a gay marriage supporting Republican as well as a Christian. There are 2 reasons that most people oppose gay marriage 1. It will ruin the sanctity of marriage and 2. It goes against the teachings of the bible. As far as #1 goes, Hollywood ruined the sanctity of marriage long ago. Homosexual couples will do no more harm to the sanctity of marriage than heterosexual couples. Just look at the divorce rate amongst heterosexual couples. As for #2, the Bible may define marriage as a union between one man and one woman, HOWEVER, it also says to not judge and that we are all sinners. God made us all who we are and j don't think he would condemn the children that he create feom being happy. What gives any of us the right to judge two people of legal consenting age who are committed to one another? And as for children of Homosexual couples, with the divorce rate amongst Hererosexual couples hovering around 50%, is it better for children to be in a split household than with 2 loving parents. Maybe the government needs to focus more on keeping families together rather than banning marriage for people who are already raising children together. With no-fault divorce, it is way too easy to dissolve a marriage these days. One last point I would like to make is really a rhetorical question, how does gay marriage really affect a homosexual? It doesn't.

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John

6:38 pm on Friday, February 3, 2012

It seems odd that so many responders question our elected commissioners decision to recognize National Marriage Week and appear to think they should keep their opinions to themselves. Yet none seem to question our elected Governor's decision to actively promote and sanctify homosexual marriage. Typical liberal, if you don't agree with me keep your mouth shut, but if you do you're free to speak up.

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County Citizen

6:48 pm on Friday, February 3, 2012

You seem a bit defensive, John, and I'm happy to say you may have misunderstood the discussions. Let me help to clarify. 1. We do not feel they should keep their opinions to themselves, but we do feel they should state their personal opinions as a person, not an elected government official or on behalf of the citizens without express consent. They were elected to deal with government issues in Carroll County, not personal issues that we did not ask them to pursue. Using their title to support their own personal agenda is blantantly against the Code of Ethics they were sworn to uphold (see link above).

2. No one here is questioning the Governor's decision to promote and sanctify homosexual marriage because - A. he's not promoting it, he's just trying to make it legal (not religious as sanctify implies) so that all adults can equally choose to marry regardless of sex, race, or religion; and B. he is only asking for equality - not dictating that you must marry same sex. Freedom for all is what he's promoting. It does not affect our official, BOC, or any individual if a gay person marries. It does affect them if they are not allowed to marry. Not only does it send a mesage that they are inferior, but it also limits their legal rights. Churches do not have to recognize their union - but government has no reason not to. If the law currently states it must be a man and a woman, it simply is outdated & should be changed for equality, just as they changed the laws of slavery.

Bonnie Grady

7:28 pm on Friday, February 3, 2012

Does this little note from the commissioners' agenda explain anything? Why is this even ON the agenda? What does THIS have to do with county business? But it does relate, no doubt, to the new additions to the county government homepage.

Friday ~ February 10, 2012
6:30 p.m. Church of the Open Door Annual Sweetheart Banquet
Westminster, Maryland
Commissioners Rothschild, Frazier & Shoemaker

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County Citizen

9:02 am on Saturday, February 4, 2012

This is interesting, I had posted the ethic link again and copied the portion of the code of ethics that they violated with their actions last night which has since been deleted. So, I am reposting and will continue to post (see below post). What they have done is completely unethical, not because of their beliefs but because they did this using their title and position in the government. If I were a licensed counselor, I could not post my comments with my title of LCPC or I would lose my license because as a person I can say and support whatever I want, but as a professional, you cannot us you license or any influence or priveledge that affords you, to further your personal beliefs or agendas. Which it is apparent from Bonnie's post above and the article that Frazier absolutely did. Since all 5 of the commissioners signed this, they too are now liable.

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County Citizen

9:04 am on Saturday, February 4, 2012

Here is the ethics link, as well as complaint process, and what I feel they violated (especially #1, #3, and G):

Here is the link to the ethics they are sworn to uphold: http://ccgovernment.carr.org/ccg/code/codetext.asp?section=003.001.004

A. The County Commissioners, recognizing that our system of representative government depends in part upon the people maintaining the highest trust in their public officials and employees, find and declare that:

(1) The people have a right to be assured that the impartiality and independent judgment of public officials and employees will be maintained;

(2) The people have a right to be assured that the financial interests of holders of and candidates for public office present no conflict with the public interest; and

(3) This trust is eroded when the conduct of the County's business is subject to improper influence, or even the appearance of improper influence.

AND

" G. Use the prestige of their office for their own benefit or that of another or misuse County property, time, resources, or materials"

Matt Gibbons

7:55 pm on Friday, February 3, 2012

Well, what an interesting comment thread.
Let's not forget to be respectful of others no matter how much we may disagree with them.
SB 241 -- the Marriage Protection Act -- is a matter of state law. I do not see how this should be addressed by our local government. The commissioner are entitled to their opinions on this matter and to advocate for them but not through the county government. There should not be a link to Maryland Marriage Alliance on the county web site.

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Neil Ridgely

8:04 pm on Friday, February 3, 2012

It's one more instance of this Board of Commissioners over-reaching the bounds of their very local elective office - and one more example of their abusing that office by using it as a soap box for their personal beliefs. The office of County Commissioner has no authority with the Board of Elections and no input into whether this state does or does not allow marriage for all of its adult residents. Government by Press Release is about all this Board of Commissioners are good at. If they think this sort of behavior is an example of leadership they should look over their shoulders and make note of just who is following them.

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Native

9:36 am on Saturday, February 4, 2012

Kudos to the commissioners! This issue became a county issue when the advocates for same-sex marriage began rallying for government approval at the state level. Neil, you think the commissioners have no business taking a stand here, but you want them to promote issues you agree with. It goes both ways pal. The current board was elected by the majority of people in the county that hold the same beliefs as them. They are simply echoing those same beliefs. And we are glad they are taking a stand.

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Buck Harmon

10:09 am on Saturday, February 4, 2012

The majority of the citizens didn't vote.... only a very small fraction placed them...
Is there a site or blog somewhere that shares supporter's of these shananagan's thoughts and perspectives??

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County Citizen

10:24 am on Saturday, February 4, 2012

The problem here is perception. You believe people are promoting same-sex marriage. However, that is not the case. What is being promoted & discussed on a state level is equality for all citizens of Maryland. Are you arguing against equality? Legally, we are all entitled to be treated fairly and equally. What a church chooses to recognize is up to them, but legally we are bound to equality. Discrimination is illegal. The penalties for hate crimes reinforces the seriousness of the basic right, no matter their beliefs (so long as those beliefs do not infringe on another's basic right), to be treated equally. As such, two consenting adults should be allowed to be married, regardless of sex. It's that simple. If you have a legal reason why this should not be so, please educate me - I do desperately want to understand. But if it's a religious belief, then it does not belong in government. The law may have been worded as man & woman, but that is discriminatory. Now that that is recognized should be ammended just as we ammended the constitution & laws for equality of blacks and women and abolished slavery. Equality is for everyone, not just those who think like-minded. That is the difference in these "arguments". One is for equality - if you are against this, then what exactly are you for?

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Native

10:32 am on Saturday, February 4, 2012

Citizen, you are partly right. I agree that they should be covered by insurance as a couple, but to call it marriage is over the top. And your argument against religious beliefs in government is baseless. This government was founded on the basis of religion. The Bible say not to kill, should we ignore that law as well? You can't pick & chose.

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County Citizen

10:46 am on Saturday, February 4, 2012

Native, no one says that the bible and the law won't overlap at times. The bible does say not to kill, but that does not inherently mean it is why it is a law. It is a law because to kill someone infringes in the most blatant way, LOL, on their right to live - because each person is equal, no one is allowed to kill someone they may deem less valuable, no matter the reason, correct? The rare exception to this is in cases of self-defense. So, yes, our ancestors were of Christian mindset. And with this awareness on what one powerful, restricted line of thinking can cause, they included the separation of church and state so that the people are free to believe and live as they desire - and that right cannot be restricted by government. Yet, churches can believe and live as they want without the encroachment of government - as was just upheld in the Supreme Court where they determined all the equality issues do not have to be upheld in church positions (ie, sex discriminiation, etc)...but in government, discrimination is not allowed. So, yes, there are times that the bible and the laws will be in agreement, but that cannot be construed as the law being based on religion or that religion should now be incorporated into law. If everyone agrees on a religious premise, then the presumption would be that there would not be a need for a law, right? But laws exist so that a larger or more powerful group cannot take away our inalienable human rights, one of which is to be treated equally.

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withavengeance

10:07 am on Sunday, February 5, 2012

Amen, Native. All the commissioners did was to join into a NATIONAL proclamation promoting marriage. Which still equals 1 man + 1 woman.

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County Citizen

10:25 am on Sunday, February 5, 2012

Withavengeance, I think you misunderstand the point, though you partially made it for yourself. It was a NATIONAL campaign - which all 5 could surely join with no controversy had they joined it as individuals. What they are not ALLOWED to do, is to do so using their titles and therefor implicating all the county citizens, thereby misusing their position and prestige to misrepresent and bring about undue influence for their own personal cause and agenda. THAT is what is not OK. Anyone is allowed to have their opinion, but elected officials are not allowed to misuse their power that the title affords them. Secondly, why do you need to promote something that already exists? And it's not unanimously one man + one woman, and I can almost guarantee that within the next 5 years, you find there is no more definition of 1 man + 1 woman. The good part is, that no one is forcing YOU to marry same sex, nor will anyone ever infringe on your belief or desire to marry the opposite sex. Equality will prevail, as it always does and always. Of course, I am a woman, so if you don't believe in equality, you may not give any credence to what I say. Or is your prejudice strictly against gays? I mean, if you're not for equality, and allowing someone else to do what they want with their life, what are you for? Can you explain how it matters legally if a man and a man marry or a woman and a woman? How exactly does that affect you personally? Sorry, I just am grasping to understand your position.

Bonnie Grady

9:40 am on Saturday, February 4, 2012

Valarie Bonk, can you shed light on why the previous link to the ethics code website was pulled? Was that an editorial decision? If so, what was objectionable about the post?

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Native

10:16 am on Saturday, February 4, 2012

C'mon Buck, you can come up with a better retort then that! That's a loser's lament!

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Buck Harmon

10:25 am on Saturday, February 4, 2012

Did you respond to provide me with a site that supports these decisions.. or are you still blowin smoke??

County Citizen

10:32 am on Saturday, February 4, 2012

One other thought with specific regards to these statements by Frazier:

“Lawyers Mall was full. There were people of all ages, all backgrounds, all religions and basically they were there to say we support God’s law and Maryland’s law of marriage being one man and one woman,” said Frazier.

She said that a vote for marriage equality is “a vote against children because the studies show that the healthier, safer, most successful road for children is to be raised by one man and one woman.”

First, God's law does not belong in the government; that is explicit in the interpretation of the Constitution calling for separation of church and state. Again, reinforcing how she is using her personal (not impartial) beliefs inappropropriately under the title of Commissioner, which is illegal.

Secondly, her claim on the studies is simply false. I have studied and researched this extensively, and children raised by same-sex couples are at least as "well-adjusted" as children raised in heterosexual relationships. I would love to see her studies to back up her claim; I'm pretty sure they don't exist, which goes to another misuse of her title - implying some authority or knowledge in an area she is obviously not well-versed in, and using her title while doing so.

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County Citizen

10:33 am on Saturday, February 4, 2012

*I apologize, I should have stated it was unethical, not illegal, in the statement above.

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withavengeance

10:29 am on Wednesday, February 8, 2012

Last time I checked, this country was founded on God's law.

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County Citizen

10:12 am on Saturday, February 11, 2012

withavengeance, you might want to brush up on your fact-checking skills then. Or perhaps get a tutor (I could help you out if you want) :) Remember, this discussion isn't about religion - it's all about abuse of power and incorporating religion into law where it's not allowed. Regardless of the founding father's religion, they were broad-minded enough NOT to impose religion, actually, just the opposite - they require freedom of religion and separation of church and state. So if that is where you are getting your inspiration, you will actually find you are on our side afterall!

Friedhard

10:57 am on Saturday, February 4, 2012

Native, I am a resident of the county. I did not vote for these fundamentalists. I do not agree with their sanctimonious proclamations about God and marriage. I also do not support so-called christians trying to force religious morality on me or anyone else by abusing their government office. In fact, I resent it deeply. Worship what you want and marry who you want, but don't expect me to abide by your views.

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Native

9:10 pm on Saturday, February 4, 2012

No problem Fried, I respect your difference of opinion.

Faith Nissel

4:03 pm on Saturday, February 4, 2012

Commiss Howard said that this is all an interesting read...but that we don't represent the majority of carrooll countians, marylanders, or even americans on this issue.

too bad we can't reach more people by posting our views and a click through link to our state level representatives on a website as accessible as their taxpayer funded commissioners website is.

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County Citizen

4:11 pm on Saturday, February 4, 2012

Ironic he would reaffirm that he doesn't care about what the minority group think, lol. Just further evidence of the character behind the title. I would, however, like to know how he has determined we are the minority. After all, this law is ready to pass, which it already has in 6 other states and more to come I'm sure, so that in itself seems to suggest we are the majority and we will be heard!

Bonnie Grady

4:46 pm on Saturday, February 4, 2012

There is a website that is taking the commissioners to task. I think it's fairly new, but some of you might be interested in reading it. It's www.eyeoncarroll.com but they don't have a comments section, at least not yet. Somehow, I got on their email list and the updates come from eyeoncarroll@hotmail.com. The emails say you can subscribe or unsubscribe at that email address. Worth a look for those who are interested.

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County Citizen

9:38 pm on Saturday, February 4, 2012

Thanks for sharing that, Bonnie- that's great information :)

shadow_man

4:43 am on Sunday, February 5, 2012

Children will not be harmed by gay marriage. Let's examine research and prove what anti-gays are saying wrong. Also note, that "children" are completely irrelevant to gay marriage, because that issue is about gay adoption, which is not related.

http://www.livescience.com/6073-children-raised-lesbians-fine-studies-show.html
"In general, kids in both heterosexual and lesbian households had similar levels of academic achievement, number of friends and overall well-being."

http://www.magneticfire.com/2010/02/19/1119/
"Goldberg’s new book is the first full-length analysis of the research on gay parenting, summarizing research data on the subject from the 1970s to the present day. The research is consistent in suggesting that the outcomes and well-being of children raised by gay and lesbian parents are no different than those of children raised by heterosexual parents."

http://www.webmd.com/mental-health/news/20051012/study-same-sex-parents-raise-well-adjusted-kids
"Studies from 1981 to 1994, including 260 children reared by either heterosexual mothers or same-sex mothers after divorce, found no differences in intelligence, type or prevalence of psychiatric disorders, self-esteem, well-being, peer relationships, couple relationships, or parental stress."

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shadow_man

4:44 am on Sunday, February 5, 2012

Children will not be harmed by gay marriage

http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2010/08/100831091240.htm
"In a study published this month in the journal Demography, Rosenfeld concludes that children being raised by same-sex couples have nearly the same educational achievement as children raised by married heterosexual couples."

http://www.apa.org/pi/lgbt/resources/parenting.aspx
"As this summary will show, the results of existing research comparing lesbian and gay parents to heterosexual parents and children of lesbian and gay parents to children of heterosexual parents are quite clear: Common stereotypes are not supported by the data."

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shadow_man

4:44 am on Sunday, February 5, 2012

We need to get the word out to religious communities that anti-gay people are twisting God's words to suit their agenda.

Homosexuality is not a sin. The Bible is constantly being taken out of context to support anti-gay views. Scholars who have studied the Bible in context of the times and in relation to other passages have shown those passages (Leviticus, Corinthians, Romans, etc) have nothing to do with homosexuality. These passages often cherry-picked while ignoring the rest of the Bible. The sins theses passages are referring to are idolatry, Greek temple sex worship, prostitution, pederasty with teen boys, and rape, not homosexuality or two loving consenting adults.

http://www.soulfoodministry.org/docs/English/NotASin.htm
http://www.jesus21.com/content/sex/bible_homosexuality_print.html
http://www.christchapel.com/reclaiming.html
http://www.stjohnsmcc.org/new/BibleAbuse/BiblicalReferences.php
http://www.gaychristian101.com/
http://www.mccchurch.org/AM/Template.cfm?Section=Resources&Template=/CM/HTMLDisplay.cfm&ContentID=2121
http://www.wouldjesusdiscriminate.org/biblical_evidence.html
http://www.soulforce.org/article/homosexuality-bible-gay-christian
http://www.goodhopemcc.org/spirituality/sexuality-and-bible/homosexuality-not-a-sin-not-a-sickness.html

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shadow_man

4:45 am on Sunday, February 5, 2012

This is the perfect example of how anti-gay people change the bible's words for their anti-gay agenda.

Corinthians 6:9-11
Let us examine that very closely.

Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither the immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate [malakoi], nor homosexual offenders [arsenokoites], nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor robbers will inherit the kingdom of God.

First of all, before we address this line, let us consider one thing. Supposedly taken from a 2000+ year old book, understand that the word "homosexual" was not coined until 1869 by Austrian-born novelist Karl-Maria Kertbeny. So how it happens to be included in a true reading of the particular biblical passage should make you ponder how accurate the interpretation actually is. So man changing the words of the Bible to conveniently spread their anti-gay agenda?

Absolutely.

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shadow_man

4:46 am on Sunday, February 5, 2012

For those of you claiming homosexuality is a "lifestyle", that is a false and ignorant statement. Homosexuality is not a choice. Just like you don't choose the color of your skin, you cannot choose whom you are sexually attracted to. Virtually all major psychological and medical experts agree that sexual orientation is NOT a choice. Most gay people will tell you its not a choice. Common sense will tell you its not a choice. While science is relatively new to studying homosexuality, studies tend to indicate that its biological.

http://www-news.uchicago.edu/releases/03/differential-brain-activation.pdf
http://www.newscientist.com/channel/sex/dn14146-gay-brains-structured-like-those-of-the-opposite-sex.html
Gay, Straight Men's Brain Responses Differ
http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,155990,00.html
http://www.livescience.com/health/060224_gay_genes.html
http://www.springerlink.com/content/w27453600k586276/
http://blogs.discovermagazine.com/80beats/2008/06/16/172/

There is overwhelming scientific evidence that homosexuality is not a choice. Sexual orientation is generally a biological trait that is determined pre-natally, although there is no one certain thing that explains all of the cases. "Nurture" may have some effect, but for the most part it is biological.

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withavengeance

10:12 am on Sunday, February 5, 2012

I agree shadow. I do believe it's biological in nature. After all, who would CHOOSE to live a life this way and put up with all the negative stuff? That being said, call it anything else BUT a marriage. I don't care what homosexuals do, just don't call it a MARRIAGE.

Just one word change and I'd be okay with this.

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Buck Harmon

10:54 am on Sunday, February 5, 2012

The term marriage is a word... a label..not a life style... the impact of some words ??

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County Citizen

10:56 am on Sunday, February 5, 2012

withavengeance - why should they not be allowed to call it a marriage? A church does not have to recognize it as such, but who are you, or anyone, to tell someone what is or is not a marriage??? Please, i'm begging you, please explain so that we can all understand why this offends you so much? I really do want to understand, it just seems to be beyond my comprehension without some kind of explanation or justification...can you help educate me?

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shadow_man

5:36 am on Monday, February 6, 2012

withavengeance: There is no reason to change the word. Heterosexual and homosexual marriage are no different from each other except for the gender being loved. That isn't a good enough reason to change the word, and promotes separate but equal principles.

shadow_man

4:46 am on Sunday, February 5, 2012

How ironic when MLK's main advisor and mentor during his early activist years, Bayard Rustin, was openly homosexual. MLK clearly didn't hate him.

Also lets not forget about what MLK's wife said, the person who would know him best:

"I still hear people say that I should not be talking about the rights of lesbian and gay people. But I hasten to remind them that Martin Luther King Jr. said, ‘Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere.’ I appeal to everyone who believes in Martin Luther King Jr.’s dream, to make room at the table of brotherhood and sisterhood for lesbian and gay people."

-Coretta Scott King

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Native

8:03 am on Sunday, February 5, 2012

You are correct, we should hate the sin, not the siner.

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shadow_man

5:34 am on Monday, February 6, 2012

native: Except i already proved that homosexuality is not a sin =)

Bonnie Grady

9:11 am on Sunday, February 5, 2012

Shadow man, great work, but let's keep in mind the LEGAL issues here. The commissioners have violated their oath of office which binds them to serve without partiality or prejudice. They may have violated the Carroll County ethics laws as well. These are the things we need to address.

We will never be able to open their closed hearts and their closed minds, but we can address the legal issues, and we can inform others to join us in that effort. Spread the word.

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Faith Nissel

9:34 am on Sunday, February 5, 2012

This issue is not something the Commissioners get to have a say in as Commissioners- it is a State level issue- nobody voted for them to have an opinion on this matter in the capacity of Commissioners. That is not their job. To endorse something like this and make a "proclamation of marriage week" make it look like we, the County, back them- which in all honesty, may or may not be the case, since the voters of Carroll County did not elect these people based on this issue. So I am not sure how Mr. Howard could state to me that he believes his personal opinion represents the majority of Carroll Countians, Marylanders, and even Americans. Yes, he did say that to me in an email.

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Wearedoomedcc

2:22 am on Monday, February 6, 2012

Complete arrogance since the entire county did not vote for any or all of these commissioners.

withavengeance

10:13 am on Sunday, February 5, 2012

Regardless of how many or how few voted in the election that put our commissioners in office, the fact remains that the MAJORITY did.

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County Citizen

10:54 am on Sunday, February 5, 2012

A majority of who? The citizens? If you took a poll, I would bet that is not factually true. I would even go so far to say that a majority didn't vote at all - BUT, that is their own fault. Or maybe not. Maybe people feel powerless because someone may be voted in on the issues in government and find out that the people they supported used their position and power to run a personal agenda having absolutely nothing to do with their government responsibilities. This was not a county issue. This is not something they have power or control over. This is not what they were voted in for. And yet, look what they chose to do, regardless of what the majority of their citizens feel or believe. Until you can put facts and statistics behind your claims, you should refrain from making your opinion stated as some sort of truth, or you lose all credibility...much as the BOC now have.

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Buck Harmon

11:01 am on Sunday, February 5, 2012

Nope.. the minority did, as always , the minority of the population voted, so obviously the small minority put them in office. That's the way it works in an apathetic county.

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Buck Harmon

11:04 am on Sunday, February 5, 2012

You can't discount the uneducated or uninformed citizens..

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Buck Harmon

11:22 am on Sunday, February 5, 2012

The political arena in Carroll is, and has been an intentional breeding ground of apathy.
People with busy lives trying to make ends meet, don't have the time to invest in keeping up with serious silliness demonstrated by elected official public servants.

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Bonnie Grady

11:27 pm on Sunday, February 5, 2012

Okay, once again, here are the 2010 election stats:

For the record, "the vast majority of Carroll" didn't elect the current bored of commissioners. In the 2010 primary, of the 86,883 registered voters, only 27,252 (31.37%) actually voted.

The current commissioners got a combined total of 8,240 votes, or roughly 9.5% of total registered voters in Carroll County. That, my dear, is not a majority, by any stretch of the imagination!

In the District 1 primary, Robin Frazier got 1,572 votes or 41.5%. That means that 2,216 Republicans voted AGAINST her by voting FOR one of her five opponents, even though she was going for a second term. It appears Carroll County Republicans disliked her so much the first time, they voted for “ABF” (Anyone But Frazier) in the primary. So, essentially, 58.5% did NOT want her in office. Doesn’t look like a majority to me, sweetcakes!

Of those who voted in the primary in District 2, Haven Shoemaker got 1,592 votes (39.04%), a little more than a third of the total votes cast. That means that 2,486 voters from his own party did NOT want him to win. Again, not a majority.

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Bonnie Grady

11:29 pm on Sunday, February 5, 2012

In District 3, Dave Roush got 1,720 votes (51.37%) with 1,628 votes going FOR his opponents. He did better than three of the other four, but there were still a LOT of people who voted AGAINST him by voting for his opponents. Technically, he can claim a majority, but only by a mere 1.37%...hardly anything to brag about. And certainly not “the vast majority” as all the commissioners like to claim.

In District 4, Richard Rothschild got 1,391 votes (36.51% - the weakest showing of the five), but 2,419 voters did not want to see him get the nomination. Almost twice as many people wanted to see him lose to any one of his four opponents. (Oh, and by the way, there are three times as many Hispanics living in Carroll County compared to the total number of people who voted for Richie in the primary. That number comes from the US Census Bureau.)

In District 5, Doug Howard received 1,965 votes (52.51%) and 1,777 Republicans saying “thanks, but no thanks.” Like Roush, a majority yes, but barely with just 2.51%.

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Bonnie Grady

11:30 pm on Sunday, February 5, 2012

Part 3 (parts 1 and 2 are below)

So looking at total votes cast in the primary, 2,216 voters didn’t want Frazier; 2,486 didn’t want Shoemaker; 1,628 voted against Roush; 2,419 people said “no” to Rothschild, more than in any other district; and despite his CATS name recognition, 1,777 people said “we’ll pass” to Howard.

In the General Election, it was merely a coronation of whomever's name was followed by an "R" on the ballot. The R voters saw Ehrlich’s name at the top of the ballot and just sleepwalked the rest of the way down the page.

So Pammy Hammy, if those of us who speak out against the commissioners are the minority, as you like to claim, why is it that the BOC had an over 75% failing grade in the recent Times poll about their performance in their first year? Hmmmmmm?

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Buck Harmon

11:52 pm on Sunday, February 5, 2012

Wow Bonnie, And those facts are only based on registered voters. If you look at the total citizens of Carroll that are of voting age , the vast minority did ALL of the voting.
A sad statement for a Republican based county at best. The hope of improving conditions in Carroll rests with a minority elected BOC, that breaks the law on a regular basis, and doesn't seem to give a hoot about it.
A good thing public apathy works in their favor.... not much to boast about though..

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County Citizen

8:47 am on Monday, February 6, 2012

Bonnie, I think I love you, lol

County Citizen

10:36 am on Sunday, February 5, 2012

Shadow_Man, thank you for posting all those excellent point to counter the blantantly false statements Frazier proclamed in the article. And while, no as Bonnie stated, we will never be able to educate them enough to open their closed minds, you may have reached others that just followed blindly thinking they knew the truth, but now realizing those truths were lies. You are 100% correct, and yet (some) people will feel how they feel despite the information and facts. And again, Bonnie is correct that while you prove them wrong on a biblical sense and scientific sense, the issue is still irrelevant in such as this is unethical action based on their titles and overreaching their duties by using their titles in a manner inappropriately and to further a personal agenda which proves they are no longer able to be impartial in their duties. There needs to be a petition and a reporting of them to the ethics committee. This is the only true way to make our voices heard and to take a stand. It was made clear they give no creedance to social blogs or posts and dismiss this as cowardly confrontation.

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withavengeance

10:56 am on Sunday, February 5, 2012

@ County: The fact remains that the voters in Carroll County who voted put them into office. How on earth can you try to refute that??? Last time I checked, Carroll Co. is still a 'red' county, so what did you expect?

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Buck Harmon

11:02 am on Sunday, February 5, 2012

County Citizen, You should be a judge.... great summaries...Thanks..

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County Citizen

4:09 pm on Sunday, February 5, 2012

First, thank you, Buck - that totally made my day and made me smile! :)

Secondly, @withavengeance, I do realize that traditionally Carroll County is a red state. I also recognize that there are many citizens, regardless of political affiliation, that agree with either side of this issue. So, from that aspect, no, it doesn't surprise me that all 5 commissioners believe that a marriage should consist of one man and one woman. But, my concern is that they would reach out beyond their BOC duties and breach their own code of ethics, by using their political position to further their belief. Now, obviously I don't agree with their position, but even if I had I would still be outraged that they felt they had the right to do so. How would you feel if they signed a petition in favor of equal marriage laws for all people? Would you feel it would be ok, say if they had a petition showing the majority of their citizens wanted them to? How about if you proved they were in the minority in their opinions and they chose to do so anyway? The point and bottom line is that we are all free to have and support our own beliefs, but not if you are doing so as a representative of a government agency. I won't even address all the misstatements that were made by Frazier (ESP since shadow_man did such a fine job!). But I digress....I hope this helps clarify why so many are upset. We now feel misrepresented and without a voice.

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shadow_man

5:33 am on Monday, February 6, 2012

Np :) These anti-gay people rely on lies and distortion because they realize they are on the wrong side of history. It's easy to prove them wrong, even on religious grounds. We are constantly working outside as well with churches and people irl to spread the truths. The funny thing is, none of the younger generation believe the lies the anti-gay people throw out, because the anti-gay arguments are very laughable.

Bonnie Grady

10:58 am on Sunday, February 5, 2012

County Citizen, this bunch has demonstrated time and again their belief that they are above the law. A perfect example is this past week's ruling that they violated MD's Open Meetings Act. Rothschild referred to that as "a very minor thing." Howard said he sees no reason to change the way they conduct their meetings, despite the State's ruling against them. They have no regard for the law.

This is a very corrupt board. They're morally corrupt, as evidenced by their hatred of anyone who doesn't share their twisted views. They're financially corrupt,as shown in Patch reports of Frazier's dishonest milage claims and their bogus anti-climate forum. They're ethically corrupt as anyone can see by their lies upon lies upon lies about the secret meetings and shady hiring and zoning practices.

They need to clean up their act and get down to the business of county business. All this other stuff is a gross waste of taxpayer money.

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Michael

2:49 pm on Sunday, February 5, 2012

Homosexuality is a corruption of basic core animal instincts, a biological mistake that results in abnormal sexual behavior, with additional psychological consequences in humans. Normally, nature has a way of eradicating such freak mistakes, and among all species, that is what happens because it weakens the species as a whole. However, man has a mind, and with that mind, the ability to think and reason. These abilities are why man rules this world. But sometimes man’s mind becomes morally corrupt and fails to see the obvious dangers before him. Moral corruption takes many forms - greed, dishonesty, crime, and other perversions of basic social principles. There is also intellectual degeneracy that leads to depravity, sexual perversions, and more. History has shown us that individuals, groups, cities, countries, even entire civilizations, have crumbled because of such moral decay. Homosexuality is a freak of nature, and nature ultimately wins by weeding out and eliminating those who weaken the species.

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Bonnie Grady

3:32 pm on Sunday, February 5, 2012

Michael, I will pray for you.

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Buck Harmon

3:33 pm on Sunday, February 5, 2012

The freaks in nature are politicians and or elected public official servants that use their perceived power to somehow benefit their own personal agenda...this kind of ill behavior can not possibly be natural... instincts are natural... they tend to lead us in the way that our lives play out...
Not seeking common ground could be viewed as moral decay...

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County Citizen

4:13 pm on Sunday, February 5, 2012

Michael, I think you forgot to start that with "in my opinion..."

As sad I find your opinion, I still believe in your right to hold it. And I am sure there will be many now praying for you to have the fortitude, strength, insight, open mind and heart to one day regret the words you have posted here.

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County Citizen

4:44 pm on Sunday, February 5, 2012

One last thought for you, Michael. If nature does "weed out and eliminate those who weaken the species" then based on history, does it not scare you that it may be you who will be eliminated? Hitorically, weakness tends to be associated with those of a closed mind and unwilling to compromise or understand a way different from their own. You sound more like hitler or Osama than a Christian (which I grant you did not claim to be). But in the end, equality has always ultimately won against bigotry. So, if you truly believe what you tout, you may best be served by looking inward, if only to preserve your own destiny. Just saying'...

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shadow_man

5:31 am on Monday, February 6, 2012

Lmao, you need to learn how to troll michael. I see you're just as bad at it on the yahoo boards. Way too obvious.

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withavengeance

11:40 pm on Monday, February 6, 2012

Wow...even I wouldn't go even close to this far.

Faith Nissel

3:21 pm on Sunday, February 5, 2012

Wow, Michael, hate much? If we look at greed, dishonesty, crime, and perversion, historically it is straight males perpetuating those crimes.

Perhaps straight males are a biological mistake?

Your comments are so ridiculous they don't even deserve a reasonable response.

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Bonnie Grady

3:34 pm on Sunday, February 5, 2012

To all reasonable-minded Patch readers, take a look at this. You've seen the proclamation, but have you seen the way the commissioners crowed about what they have done in their press release? Link is below. Truly disturbing.
http://ccgovernment.carr.org/ccg/releases/PR-Marriage%20Definition.pdf

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Buck Harmon

3:45 pm on Sunday, February 5, 2012

What a bunch of perfectly natural goofballs.... hard to believe..

County Citizen

4:19 pm on Sunday, February 5, 2012

Thanks, Bonnie. It does help clarify some things. After all, they feel they need to defend the institution of marriage - wont they be relieved to find out that it's not under attack, merely expansion?!? Now all we need to do is to all write our representative and let them know we are 100% up for the marriage renovation and expansion law! Now we can all win. No more walls need to be built and no more ammunition needed to defend anything - except, of course, equality.

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Bonnie Grady

6:17 pm on Sunday, February 5, 2012

Isn't it ironic that their proclamation goes into such detail about their version of marriage - including the phrase "staying married" - and yet Commissioner Rothschild has been married two, maybe three times? But he too signed the document. To quote Rick Perry, "Oops!"

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Buck Harmon

6:35 pm on Sunday, February 5, 2012

The open meetings act violation ~ this ~ probably a good thing that they created legal defense funding as one of their first acts.... wonder how much of that has been used to date..?

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Bonnie Grady

11:44 pm on Sunday, February 5, 2012

Hey Buck, why don't you make a Public Information Act request about that? All you have to do is send an email to County Attorney Tim Burke and aks him that question. Keep your request simple, though, and specific because they've jacked up the prices to keep "troublemakers" like us from asking for stuff that is legally ours to know.

Bonnie Grady

11:50 pm on Sunday, February 5, 2012

FYI, when you respond directly to a comment from a previous post by clicking "reply" in their comment box, your message appears right after theirs. This means that comments don't always post in chronological order. If you scroll up, you'll see my 3-part reply to the mistatement that "withavengeance" made about the commissioners winning by a majority. It's all broken out there, so scroll up if you wnat to check it out. In truth, the five of them combined won with only 9.5% of the total registered voters in the county. You read that right: 9.5%. So maybe that explains why they're so extremist in their views. Time for moderate Republicans to wake up, speak up, and vote! Folks like these have stolen your party!

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Buck Harmon

12:07 am on Monday, February 6, 2012

Thanks for sharing facts Bonnie.... I will be making several PIA requests... we need to continue seeking not only answers, but a new and effective degree of accountability that does not seem to exist. The in your face law breaking has to be stopped.

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withavengeance

11:43 pm on Monday, February 6, 2012

Mistatement? We think NOT. Moderate R's DID vote. Don't try to bully me Bonnie. I was and am an Election Judge.

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Judith M. Smith

1:33 pm on Wednesday, February 8, 2012

WA- so am I --- no one is bullying you at all...just presenting irrefutable numbers...there was a lot of confusion at the polls because of only being able to vote for one commissioner...wonder how that played into things?? The Church of ...whatever...plays too much of a role in CC politics from Larry Haines to RF...lots of money, lots of people...They are the bullying aspect in this case....

Buck Harmon

12:14 am on Monday, February 6, 2012

I would really like to here about some of the good stuff that has taken place since this BOC has taken perceived control of things.
The same sex issues seem to have very little to do with improving the quality of life for the majority of Carroll citizens. A non issue for most that should be left to the State.

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withavengeance

11:51 pm on Monday, February 6, 2012

A non-issue? You gotta be kidding' me, ole boy! Do we not have people here in CC who are gay? Good grief!

As I stated above, this IS an issue for CC. The good stuff? No more airport expansion, at least for now. Hopefully, no $ wasted on some incinerator. PRAYERS (or a moment of silence to pray or not to pray) prior to meetings. Be tolerant of those who DO pray, please, as those who choose to are tolerant to your right NOT to pray. CC's own remembrance of the tenth anniversary of 9/11 (sparsely attended, I noticed...no one on this forum was there, but me). Holding the line on real estate tax increases for CC residents. There are many more if you'd bother to really look at the positive instead of just the negative.

Regarding Celebrate Marriage Week? This is a NATIONAL celebration and the commish's simply stated that they supported a NATIONAL celebration. What do you all have against marriage, except for the fact that the term doesn't include (so far) gays?

Go ahead...tear me apart now, just like you always try to do.

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Buck Harmon

8:55 am on Tuesday, February 7, 2012

"A non issue for most" ~ meaning the very vast majority...

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County Citizen

10:07 am on Tuesday, February 7, 2012

Withavengeance, thank you for recognizing that Carroll County does have a gay-lesbian population, and that this issue does affect our citizens, not just those that are, but also friends & families of LGBT. Take that into account, and it's a significant part of our communuity, and as such, they deserve to be represented as equal citizens of the county, because they are. If the BOC cannot refrain from acting on their personal beliefs and biases while representing as a county official, then, as with any other position or title, they should all step down.

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County Citizen

10:07 am on Tuesday, February 7, 2012

With regards to the controversy of the main topic of Marriage Week and this article, you keep saying it, but it seems that you aren't hearing yourself. It's a national issue. It's a state issue. It is not a county issue by way that our BOC have no legislative say in this issue, only as individuals like the rest of us. The original issue on this forum is really quite simple and not about who should be allowed to marry. It is about the BOC using their position inappropriately & unethically to represent and try to influence a campaign in which they are not a part of (governmentally speaking). They did not get appropriate support or input, nor did they even try, to find out if their citizens supported this movement prior to implementing it. They took their personal views and portrayed them as county views. This is in conflict to their sworn duties as BOC and they should be held accountable. If they will not voluntarily reverse this decision and apologize, then they will need to held accountable by other means. They are not above the law nor their own ethics code. They are here to represent the people, and to do so, they must hear the people above and before themselves, as they swore to do.

With regards to prayer and silent time in their meetings, why would they not also extend this right to the schools and our children then?

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County Citizen

10:07 am on Tuesday, February 7, 2012

I hope you don't feel this was meant to "tear you apart". It was simply meant to explore and understand. I still have yet to see a reply on why ior how it was within their duties to do this, regardless of election issues. This was not, and is not, a county vote, which is why others have said it is not a county issue for our officials to be involved with.

Bonnie Grady

7:42 am on Monday, February 6, 2012

Buck, whatever documents you get through your PIA requests, I hope you will share them with the public. If you're unsure how to do that, contact me; I know people who know people who can help.

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Buck Harmon

9:36 am on Monday, February 6, 2012

Thank you Bonnie, The reason for requesting them is to share them, as well as the process...

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withavengeance

10:32 am on Wednesday, February 8, 2012

'With regards to prayer and silent time in their meetings, why would they not also extend this right to the schools and our children then?'

@ County Citizen: Because not allowing prayer in school is a FEDERAL law...thank you, O'Hare, may you rot. Even our national songs aren't taught anymore in schools, e.g., National Anthem, America the Beautiful, etc.

Bonnie Grady

5:36 pm on Monday, February 6, 2012

Dagonnit! I missed this! It was last Friday. I could have sat with Don and Robin at the Celebrate Marriage Dinner. Shoot!

http://timmermanforcongress.com/print/62

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Native

1:03 pm on Tuesday, February 7, 2012

So...getting back to the original question......you all believe the board should not take a stand in this instance. However, remember this when you think they should speak out on other social or "green" issues which you believe should be brought to the forefront here in Carroll. You can't have it both ways. Maybe next time when your party is in power, you'll be happy.

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Judith M. Smith

12:41 pm on Saturday, February 11, 2012

they are more than welcome to make fools, liars, and adulters, whatever--ON THEIR OWN TIME--Not wearing the hat of Carroll County Commissioner...THAT IS THE BOTTOM LINE

County Citizen

1:20 pm on Tuesday, February 7, 2012

You're still not understanding, Native. They can take a stand personally, but not with their title. It's that simple, regardless of party. This is not a county issue. Now, if the county had the power to marry people and they wanted to change the county law on marriage, then yes - they would be within their right, I suppose...and it would be something (I would hope) that would be voted on. However, this is not the case. I feel you are having trouble trouble understanding the true issue and are only seeing it as a rep-dem issue (which this crosses party lines both ways FYI) - so the issue is not about disagreeing with the belief. I hope this helps you understand that, but if not, then I guess I can't don't know how else to explain it to help you - but you will be free to "argue" with yourself. I'm not sure you're having the same conversation that the others are.

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EBurger

1:45 pm on Tuesday, February 7, 2012

Many counties, towns and cities (Baltimore) have voted and passed proclamations to support traditional marriage or gay marriage. So this will become a non-issue once the commissioners vote 5-0 to for a resolution to support traditional marriage and urge the General Assembly to kill Bills SB241 & HB438.

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County Citizen

1:50 pm on Tuesday, February 7, 2012

For a town or county to vote, there has to be citizen support and involvement, neither of which this BOC has or tried to get prior to doing this. This was not an issue the town or county voted on during election. This was not on the ballot. There was not a survey or poll or anything taken to know what the county they represent would want them to vote. They are being irresponsible, and yes, once the bill passes for the state and the definition of marriage is expanded to all, then the discussion of whether it's okay to marry same-sex or not, will not be an issue legally. However, what the commissions did was unethical and that will be an issue, regardless of what happens with the marriage, until they are held accountable. They are in violation of the ethics code and they may be legally liable as well, that has yet to be determined. So no, sorry, EBurger, it's not a non-issue. It's not about the bill - it's about their misuse of power.

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EBurger

7:41 am on Wednesday, February 8, 2012

This just in....Mrs. Frazier supports traditional marriage between a man and woman. Commissioner Frazier has no comment.....Feel better? Let us know how that ethics code violation works out.

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County Citizen

8:06 am on Wednesday, February 8, 2012

Yep, that would be perfect, if it came from the BOC. Let us know when they repeal the county proclamation and publicly apologize - that would go a very long way! thank you!

County Citizen

2:12 pm on Tuesday, February 7, 2012

FYI - this helps resolve the issue of equality and marriage - banning gay marriage is unconstitutional...
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/46294255/ns/us_news-life/t/federal-court-rule-calif-ban-gay-marriage/

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Buck Harmon

9:43 am on Wednesday, February 8, 2012

Issue solved....just a matter of time now...

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Buck Harmon

9:50 am on Wednesday, February 8, 2012

Wait a minute....I thought that the BOC swore an oath to uphold the Constitution...
Are there varying degrees of this oath..?? Or is it just a motion that they have to go through..?
I find it hard to imagine that the BOC pretends to ignore this type of blog. There is no justification for this type of behavior.... maybe that's it.. cowardice..

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withavengeance

10:34 am on Wednesday, February 8, 2012

'Mrs. Frazier supports traditional marriage between a man and woman. Commissioner Frazier has no comment'

@ Eburger: Why should she have any further comment? Her statement says it all. She shouldn't HAVE to explain it further or defend herself!

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Buck Harmon

10:40 am on Wednesday, February 8, 2012

What about the other 4 that seem to have their heads stuck in the sand??

JoeEldersburg

12:48 pm on Wednesday, February 8, 2012

Unethical, illegal and now unconstitutional!...this Board of Commissioners now has hit the trifecta! Why should anyone be surprised that this is what we get from a bunch of Tea Party nuts! Their oath wasn't worth the paper it was printed on.

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Bonnie Grady

1:00 am on Friday, February 10, 2012

Buck, they and their "followers" see everything that's posted here. They often make subtle references to that during their open sessions. Their egos wouldn't allow them to miss a word of it! But to your question of ethics, they all took an oath to serve "without partiality or prejudice." They also swore to "be faithful and bear true allegiance to the State of Maryland." Liar, liar, pants on fire! All of 'em!

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Buck Harmon

8:43 am on Friday, February 10, 2012

I would like to think that at least one of the commissioners would attempt to justify his or her actions here.... but that might involve some real individual thought... won't hold my breath...

Judith M. Smith

8:35 am on Friday, February 10, 2012

This BOC except for RF has never had to deal with the "public" and their inability to separate personal from civic has so far eluded them. In the case of RF she is determined to just plow her own ground...and does not show any signs of being what is traditionally described as Christian behavior except Church of the Open Door rendition...Rendition is what she needs...

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Buck Harmon

8:50 am on Friday, February 10, 2012

Perhaps one of the leaders of The Church of The Open door could open the door of communication here, and attempt to explain or justify these discriminating, un Constitutional actions of the people that they placed in perceived power.
I call to the supporters of this BOC to do some explaining..

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Native

8:57 am on Friday, February 10, 2012

Gee, I'm glad all you commissioner haters are in the minority in this county! Now you're even stooping so low as to bring a church into the debate. Typical.

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Judith M. Smith

10:23 am on Friday, February 10, 2012

Native...hating the sin is a far cry from hating the sinner. If you took the time to see how few voters put the board into office, you may begin to realize that the personal opinions.of these otherwise ordinary people..should remain that-PERSONAL....They are misusing their office...that is it--could not be made ANY clearer. No one disputes that they are entitled to their opinions--but when they wear the "Commissioner" hat...they automatically are operating at a different level--they have to put aside their own opinions and represent their constituents...The particular church mentioned is well-known for marginalizing minorities, other Christians, homosexuals...so many parts of our modern society...and in Carroll County has become a bank account for extreme points of view...and typically are more involved with politics in general because of their methods of networking...something the rest of us are not as dedicated to do. This is not slamming anyone, or a church...it is stated as a reality check only... I am entitled to my opinion and am not disparaging you by suggesting that your comments may be narrow minded... Live and let live...

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Buck Harmon

10:32 am on Friday, February 10, 2012

I tend to think of it as seeking higher guidance.. stooping with both arms held high..
Did you respond to offer an explanation, or just a digger.... typical BOC supporter...

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EBurger

11:53 am on Friday, February 10, 2012

Native, The same ole crowd that gathers here does not like to me called a minority.....this small group likes to be considered the silent majority. They like to believe that the BOC reads all of their name calling, complaining to each other and outcrys for recalls, impeachments and ethics violations. Carroll County is conservative country and the BOC is the conservative voice. This is where typical BOC supporters come to be entertained.

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Bonnie Grady

8:58 pm on Friday, February 10, 2012

Ahem. The Official Agenda for the Carroll County Board of Commissioners for this week (2/6-10/12) shows that on this very night, even as I type this, the following is taking place. Now WHO brought a church into this?

Friday ~ February 10, 2012
6:30 p.m. Church of the Open Door Annual Sweetheart Banquet
Westminster, Maryland
Commissioners Rothschild, Frazier & Shoemaker

Native

3:12 pm on Friday, February 10, 2012

Yep, Mr Burger, I understand. I smile when I read all of it.

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Judith M. Smith

6:50 pm on Friday, February 10, 2012

I really don't believe in labels...too divisive...what I DO believe in is having a better representation of our elected officials rather than the extremists and nut cases that a couple of them appear to be. Religion should be left at the door...talk is cheap...and the actions of a couple of them are indefensible..saying to "ignore Neil Ridgely", yelling at me in an open Commissioner meeting--not the first time--changing how the public interacts with the elected officials...using the volatile word "Gestapo" to describe people who disagree with someone's point of view?? And we are paying them?? The faux forum on the environment??? The speakers were not recognized by main stream (hmmm...maybe I'm onto something here...)...the Agenda 21 baloney...telling the general public to "sue" if they don't like having names redacted in emails...there is a huge gap in confidence with the current BOC AND THEY DO NOT CARE!!! I suggested an interactive website for all the board members to have "sections" on their projects, etc. and a way for the general public to PUBLICLY exchange opinions, suggestions, praise....whatever....that was quite a while ago. Paying for Sweetheart banquet tickets and junk like that do not belong on the weekly agenda, but it IS an excuse to be paid back by our taxpayer dollars for any expenses... This board needs to re-evaluate what direction they are going in and stop being led by the nose ring by one member, and the syncophant who follows...

Buck Harmon

6:43 pm on Friday, February 10, 2012

EBurger,
Is this your explanation of why the BOC has been behaving badly... best you can do..?
I do understand.. best they can do...
Citizens deserve better..

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Judith M. Smith

12:42 pm on Saturday, February 11, 2012

there's that wicked humor again...love it...

Bonnie Grady

8:59 pm on Friday, February 10, 2012

Ahem. The Official Agenda for the Carroll County Board of Commissioners for this week (2/6-10/12) shows that on this very night, even as I type this, the following is taking place. Now WHO brought a church into this?

Friday ~ February 10, 2012
6:30 p.m. Church of the Open Door Annual Sweetheart Banquet
Westminster, Maryland
Commissioners Rothschild, Frazier & Shoemaker

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Bonnie Grady

9:01 pm on Friday, February 10, 2012

And you can just bet that at least one of them (cough, cough, Frazier, cough, cough) will be putting in for milage to and from the event, as she often does. Is that how you like to see your tax dollars spent?

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Native

10:05 pm on Friday, February 10, 2012

So? Like I said before, just give them cars & they won't need to submit milage reports.

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Buck Harmon

10:33 pm on Friday, February 10, 2012

WOW... that church must REALLY have some clout... wonder if 3 commissioners have attended any other church function at one time...
Lame suggestion Native... Could you please explain the in appropriate actions of this BOC . The little dig comments are pointless... unless you can justify them..

Native

11:06 pm on Friday, February 10, 2012

Ahh, I see you agree with me. All the little digs that you & Bonnie & the rest of the haters here throw around are indeed pointless. Now that we have probably produced the longest running thread in Patch history, I have said my peace. Mr Burger & Vengence, thanks for the support & I'll see you on the next one.

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Judith M. Smith

1:20 pm on Saturday, February 11, 2012

why use the term "haters"--unnecessary and judgmental...people should respect other's opinions without those terms... If you were aware of the choices between using a private vehicle, and a County car...perhaps you would be more aware of the differences and understand why some people object...

County Citizen

10:24 am on Saturday, February 11, 2012

I agree with you on that, Native. Sadly, all the concerns vioced are pointless in the end. Words vented do little to change the system. If you're dealing with a corrupt system, even actions have little consequence. The BOC are the equivalent to the bullies in the schoolyard. No one truly likes them, but those who stand up against them have no recourse, those that support the end result, if not the process, protect them, and the rest feel helpless and just turn a blind eye and focus on protecting their own families and doing the best they can do. The only peace of mind is in knowing the justice will come in their end here on earth, when they have to face the one they purport to love and serve. Lord have mercy on their souls when they are faced with his vengeance of wha they did in 'his name'. As much as I don't respect them, as much as I may disagree with them, even I wouldn't wish that on them. But I can't deny the justice of it.

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Bonnie Grady

3:56 pm on Saturday, February 11, 2012

Beautiful. Thank you for sharing that. Now here is the flip side: http://www.eyeoncarroll.com/

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Judith M. Smith

4:51 pm on Saturday, February 11, 2012

WOW!! I'm not sure about some aspects of this...but it sure does paint a picture of what goes on in public...wonder just what goes on BEHIND those doors...Spread the word...great work to whomever...thanks for the site...

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Buck Harmon

5:06 pm on Saturday, February 11, 2012

I'm pretty sure that as she is reading, she is very uncomfortable.... you can see.. as she toughs through it. In her heart of hearts she believes what she believes, but still knows that she is doing something that is kind of dumb... she just can't seem to figure it out... The others.. well... they really have no excuse. A clear violation of the Constitution as well as a mis representation of many if not most of the citizens of Carroll... Will this just go away...??

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Buck Harmon

5:08 pm on Saturday, February 11, 2012

The tone in her voice is even a little fractured, considering there are no citizens in the audience.... she should have been comfortable in the element.
Very telling video....thanks..

Bonnie Grady

5:00 pm on Saturday, February 11, 2012

Judy, you can sign up for it. I got it in an email the first time. It came from eyeoncarroll@hotmail.com. There was a place to subscribe so I did. I think I've gotten three or four of them but they're all good. Whoever it is, it looks to me like a group is creating it rather than one person. I can't imagine that anyone would have that much time on their hands. But then, I'm not a blogger so I don't know what's involved.

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Buck Harmon

5:12 pm on Saturday, February 11, 2012

I'd like to see a similar site that touts or supports the behavior of the BOC.. does one exist ?

Judith M. Smith

5:13 pm on Saturday, February 11, 2012

Thank you for the link...I shall subscribe/sign up...whatever...if possible...

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Judith M. Smith

5:18 pm on Saturday, February 11, 2012

I tried all that but just got the original article from the Eldersburg Patch...so what am I doing wrong???

Bonnie Grady

5:20 pm on Saturday, February 11, 2012

Buck, ha ha! Yeah, it's called the Carroll County Government website! You can see each commissioner's personal political and religious views and opinions on there!

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Buck Harmon

5:32 pm on Saturday, February 11, 2012

Thought so..... still seeking the good stuff.... it's gotta be there....
I got the same Judith...the hotmail link didn't take me anywhere..

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Judith M. Smith

5:38 pm on Saturday, February 11, 2012

the one I originally saw was forwarded to me, but I would like to subscribe...any ideas of what might be happening...I put the eyeoncarroll@hotmail.com. in, but just get the Eldersburg Patch site... If you put it in your contacts list, it puts the address in, but you still don't get anything but a blank....help?!

Judith M. Smith

6:10 pm on Saturday, February 11, 2012

I figured it out. That's just an email address. I send an email and said "Subscribe Me" and I got a message back saying "done'. But the actual website address is www.eyeoncarroll.com. Someone posted that on another blog on Patch several days ago. But I got it from an email that someone sent me.

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Judith M. Smith

5:03 pm on Monday, February 13, 2012

That website is a real eye-opener...certainly gives another point of view to the public!!

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Buck Harmon

5:56 pm on Monday, February 13, 2012

now.... to get much more of the public to view it....thanks Patch..

Judith M. Smith

12:22 am on Tuesday, February 14, 2012

If you have a contact email list...use it and let your contacts understand that the CCTs may be unable to give more than just a couple of various points of view...and not a continuous thread such as you can see here. This outlet is a great way of being able to give opinions about matters without have the letters chosen by a gatekeeper...I sympathize that the CCT is beholden to its subscribers...but a huge void is created by people with opinions and no place to express them...Patch IS THE PLACE!!! Comments are unedited and there is an openess about being able to have the tussle back-and-forth needed for good dialogue...But please check out Eyeoncarroll.com---another terrific source of a different point of view without ranting and hysteria...

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Michael

9:04 pm on Wednesday, February 15, 2012

Some things are flat-out wrong on multiple levels. Gay marriage is one of them.

Gay activists often claim that hetersexuals fare little better than homosexuals in regard to the duration of relationships. The research, however, indicates that homosexual relationships last only a fraction of the length of most marriages.

A 2001 national survey published in the "Journal of Sex Research" found that 77 percent of married men and 88 percent of married women had remained faithful to their marriage vows.

A 2003-2004 Gay/Lesbian Census survey of 7,862 homosexuals involved in a "current relationship" found that few such relationships last longer than two years, with many men reporting hundreds of lifetime partners. Only 15 percent had lasted 5 years or longer, with 5 percent lasting more than 10 years. This indicates that few homosexual relationships achieve the longevity common in heterosexual marriages.

"The Handbook of Family Diversity" study of monogamous homosexual couples reported each had an average of three to five sex partners within the past year. Research indicates that the average male homosexual has hundreds of sex partners in his lifetime.

All of this information is easy to find, yet is largely ignored and/or discounted by those supporting gay marriage. Not mentioned is very high rate of HIV/AIDS caused by homosexual promiscuity.

Why would anyone what to promote homosexual behavior by giving it any kind of credence?

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Bonnie Grady

1:02 am on Wednesday, February 22, 2012

Can you please reconcile this sentence for me, keeping in mind the 50%-and-climbing divorce rate?

"A 2001 national survey published in the "Journal of Sex Research" found that 77 percent of married men and 88 percent of married women had remained faithful to their marriage vows."

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Michael

7:26 pm on Wednesday, February 22, 2012

fhttp://www.frc.org/get.cfm?i=IS04C02

Lots of statistics here, but if you look down the page under “ MONOGAMY VS. PROMISCUITY: SEXUAL PARTNERS OUTSIDE OF THE RELATIONSHIP”....Married Couples,.... you will see this stat and others. It takes a while, but if you read the entirety of this article highlighting various studies, it is filled with some staggering and revealing information that the ill-informed and misinformed don't know.

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